Dear BLOGGIE…
I MISS YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
More than I’m miss watching YB..( seriously!)I never know that I’ll miss you this much.. haha
So much have happen the last 3 weeks, so much to tell.. but I barely have time or mood to update anything .
My mum was hospitalized for her hypertension, Diabetes mellitus and Bell palsy. So I was home for the whole 2 week .. so..like usual la..I’m in Hiatus. She recovered quite well, although her facial paralysis wasn’t completely cured ( I think after a few therapies. She’ll be back to her usual self).For those who have been worrying about her and cheering me up.. Million thanks u guys !! m(_ _)m
( see... she is as healthy as ever )
There was this saying that you’ll know you true friend when you are in trouble/stress. I guess, I was blessed to have my friends support during my time of distress ne. Dealing with a sick relative was quite a challenge for some, including me. Being in a different picture, now as a patient’s family kinda teaches me a lot. Regardless of who she is, I think one really needs a support of someone in that kind of situation. You can’t help feeling hopeless when you know there isn’t anything much that you can do to make things better. You are anxious, distress and weary.. but there was no one there to calm you down except for yourself.
That was the time when a friend is most needed. It doesn’t need expensive gift or anything fancy ne. A simple word such as “ How are you feeling” or “ take care” already means a lot, and a simple act like to visit them in the ward can lighten up the patient and their family more than you think they would. My mum smile a lot and seem really happy that all of her colleagues and some students from school visit her at home after she was discharged. One of the teacher even volunteer to help her with the facial therapy everyday for 2 weeks. She came to our house every night to massage mum, buy her some complimentary medication, talk to her about her worries, and help her to go through her situation more than I can. And she did all of that for FREE! With all of them coming to visit her and all the care and love they show, that make me think.. “ human are so nice, ne” I couldn’t thank her enough! and I wish I can be that good/ helpful to my friends and make a positive different in their life like this teacher does. I mean, that was what friends are for right? They help each other, and they sincerely care for each other.
I believe everyone needs a friend, ne. But not everyone knows how to appreciate a good friend and be a good friend to other. If you want other to be good to you, you must first be good friend to other.. But some people just don’t get that. They want to have a good friend, but they themselves fail to be one for their friends. I used to hear someone claim that they are good friend to someone, but at the same time, they were bad mouthing each other behind each other’s back! It always make me think, “ how did they define friend as?” Is friend just someone you like to hang around with, or someone you can use to get what you want, someone whom you like because she has the look and styles that fits you, someone who you love to gossip with, someone whom will make you proud because of her fame, wealth or background? You hang out with her but you don’t really care about her .When she loses all that, do you simply just push her away? A friend is to be appreciated not to be used and throw away when you are done with them. How can you call yourself a friend, when you go behind her back saying bad thing about her, left her when she need you, and let her to continue doing mistake she is doing before as if it doesn’t matter.
A friend of mine, Q gets into some problem with another friend ,X because her “so-called best friend “ tell her that Q was not happy that she was doing something unprofessional during training. X was furious because of that( which I think wasn’t something she should be mad of..because it was truly her mistake. You can’t expect other to be happy for you when u did the wrong thing you know) When someone was mad at you for your wrong doing, it shows that they care. They do not want you to continue doing the same mistake. The people whom you regards as friend but just let you to repeat you mistakes and just put a blind eyes when you did something wrong was nowhere a friend. They are willing to see you fall instead of helping you up. If she is really a good friend as she claim she is, she wouldn’t tell X what Q said or what other were saying bad about X( because she wants to protect X from being sad ) she herself will advise X to change for good. But people always take it the other way around, they think that the one whom were changing them for good, constantly correcting and be angry when they make mistake were their enemy and the one who just let them do whatever they want are their friends.
In my opinion, being clear about things and being harsh at times when it's needed are counted as kindness. For example, if your friend does something wrong, I think defending her in a laid-back manner and letting things slide without paying too much attention is wrong. If you aren't honest with your thoughts then, even if it's acceptable in that situation, it will eventually hurt the other person. You don't necessarily have to pinpoint everything, but being bold enough to say things that are a little critical is true kindness. ( Yamapi)-credits: Seventeen_0409
Real friend will not let their friend to do the wrong thing because they would be worry if you get hurt, because she will also be hurt. Even if you think that she is nagging at you, or making you feel irritated. She did it for your own good. If someone was talking bad about you, they will fell as if they were the one being talked about. Not the one who were talking bad about you! When you cry, they will cry with you, when you were praised, they smiles with proud for you ( and not conspiring to bring you down and pull all attention to herself)they protect you. They accept you the way you are and only change you when you were wrong, they build you to be a better you and be with you through thick and thin. If the one you called friend are letting you keep on drowning in your mistakes, consider back why are being friend with her-because for me, it is not worth it-she doesn’t really give a damn about you.
For my dear mabudachi, thank you for being there when I need you guys. I know there’s a lot I have to improve, please continue to help me along the way. For always being my “ taeyang” , “shine a light “ along my way..Thank You. And along our way, If I fail to be a good friend to all of you.. “I’m so sorry.. bUt I love you.. “and that is not a Lie( gojitmal)
