it's not IMPOSSIBLE its I'M POSSIBLE

it is no secret that i am always fascinated with Japan..

well.. maybe recently , with all the halyu waves crushing in, I may seem a little distracted..but here i am back at the first square..

I'd love to go to that country, if given a chance..hehe

just finish reading an article about Foreign Nurses in Japan..

hurm, most people know that they don't really like foreigners working in their land- (so I heard..)

but I found the concept of it is quite the same with Malaysian.. ahem.. I mean, if we all like foreigners working in our country, I think there would not be so much talk or comments that smell anti-illegal worker,or anti-worker from this and that country.. ( ahem *cough*..I might be one of em) Ey..what the point of this part really actually?

to the main point..

I think it was last year that the Philippine made a deal with the Japanese government to have their nurses send to the land where my Dr Aizawa reside.. (I'm a helpless fangirl..huhu )

Anywayyyyy....

they have done it, even though only one of em pass the exam..

Malaysian nurses.. When is our time?.. * puppy eyes*

( dear Dr Aizawa.. I'm looking forward to working with you..!!!)

it may seem to be impossible for me to get it at this point ( since Malaysia did not made such agreement with Japan).. But I believe that I'M POSSIBLE . If I tried my best, I believe I will find my ways to achieve that.. Insyaallah.. ( cepat aminkan beramai2)

read more at:

http://globalnation.inquirer.net/features/people/view/20100808-285575/The-only-Filipino-nurse-to-pass-Japans-nursing-exam

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i'm thinking....

why is it easier to find nursing subjects Note made by Pinoy lecturers/nurses rather than Malaysians one?

and

Why cant I find any websites that made by Malaysian nurses for their juniors like the one I always refers to during exams ( again from filipino source) .. Sometimes I think, it's true that there are some nurses who eats their young..They only will critic the young one when they are doing something wrong, but seldom offers a helping hand.

i'm not accusing all of em, but from what I've seen during training, mmg banyak la yang pentingkan diri sendiri ja.. X salah ngajar junior kan.. Kami buat salah, kan ke effectnya kena kat semua.. "

i'm only saying this because it seem that the Philippines nurses they help each other to achieve more with their career, unlike here..( apa2 saja yang x bw benefit kat diri sendiri dorang akan bangkang.. camna nursing nak naik camtu) well, lets not go more into that.

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( wait...Who's cool nurse? that one, next to Dr Aizawa?* lovinthatname*... Oh.. It's me..)

LOL..

just realize, I actually able to mix my worklife with Oh-I-Think-I-Fall-For-Pi life.. haha..

ok..Just another case of a sleep deprived person..

chiau..

uh Oh...

Goodnite Aizawa Sensei!!!!!

HOH!!

it's been a while since i post anything up here..

been wanting to do something about it.. my mood to write was easily killed after several bloghopping activity..

people may use blog for several reason..some made it as their daily diary, for business, teaching , sharing thought and idea..ect2..

I made this one and my LJ solely because I love to write and I don't wanna forget my passion towards writing.. so..I don't really care who came visiting here..

WORDS.. be it written or spoken have very strong power.. I've said that once.

and it's true..

and some people have the power to get readers to agree with their every written words eventhough it is not the truth about the issue they were blogging on.

it irritate me when people who dont really know about an issue talks like they know everything about it and post something STUPID and argue with anybody whom disagree with them..

like on the issue on religion.. I DON't THINK IT IS SOMETHING YOU CAN JOKE ABOUT..

yet ,these brats take it lightly and play around with it.. macam orang x penah belajar agama.. !!

if the one who post it wasn't a Muslim and didn't learn anything about religion..it's forgivable kot..

tapi.. my fellow Malaysian.. Melayu lak tu.. dan aku rasa Islam la( tapi sgt bangga ngan brand Yahudi dia tu)

malu aku baca weh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

aku pun x la baik sgt pun..

Kdg2 aku pun ada kemusykilan gak sal agama.. ada benda yang aku rasa x patut, atau aku terasa nak pertikaikan..tapi, instead of keep on confusing myself over thing like that.. better find the right answer to it.. perbetulkan apa yang dimusykilkan tu dgn orang berilmu agama.

Ni tak..dia dah terpesong ngan pemikiran dia ..nak tarik orang lain jugak sama sesat ngan dia..

Nauzubillah...

Bila orang lain sibuk ngan kempen utk memerangi keganasan yahudi.. dia dengan bangganya pulak memperekehkan usaha2 tu dan menyokong Yahudi..

Sedih aku bila aku baca dia punya penulisan.. mungkin x da sapa nak bimbing dia..

Ye..aku akui.. x baik berprasangka sgt kat agama lain..

tapi encik.. dalam Al-quran pun dah sebut.. Sirah nabi pun dah tertulis ttg agama yang satu tu..

penyokong dia membandingkan Gfnya yang beragama yahudi berbuat baik kpd haiwan ngan orang islam yang membunuh anjing yg kononnya dapat pahala( knp bandingkan ngan orang yang berdosa encik)

Encik..aku pun penah baca pengakuan sorang Yahudi ( yang kemudian masuk Islam) ni yang keras menentang keganasan Israel tu.. Sangat bertuah dia dpt hidayah yang ramai kita sendiri x dapat.

The thing is.. we are not fighting them as a person.. we are fighting THEM whom were tormenting our friends in Palestine.

Aku pun x kata suma yahudi tu jahat macam aku x kata suma org Islam tu baik..

kalau aku ada patient Yahudi pun aku x akan prejudice kat dia just sbb agama dia ( lainla kalau si PM israel tu-mau aku bagi propofol overdose - puas ati aku..)

tapi, issue di sini bila satu organisasi tu dah diketahui membiayai keganasan di Gaza.. membiayai kematian beribu orang Islam sendiri.. bolehkah kamu terus menyokong organisasi tu..?

kalau kamu tahu organisasi tu bagi duit kpd tentera utk bunuh family kamu/org yang kamu sayang.. tergamakkah kamu terus sokong organisasi tu..

UNLESS YOU ARE TRULY HEARTLESS OR TOO STUPID TO SEE THAT i think you will..macam yang kau sedang buat skrg

sbb kami yang kolot ni pikirkan hal tu.. kami benci Yahudi.. Tapi sbb kamu sgtla Cool abih, Moden la sgt kononnya.. Teruskanlah sokong Organisasi Yahudi kamu tu,teruslah berbangga ngan pencapaian Yahudi ( yang terang x da income pun kau jaja sana sini)

And I also cannot tolerate people who are not patriotic..

bukannya nak kau jadi ekstrem sgt cam si-tarian-bali ekstermist dulu tu yang sampai nak bt ganyang malaysia.. ( aku ganyang mulut tu kang baru tau)

tapi..have some respect for ur own country will ya!!!

and also please show some respect for those who have sacrifice for the country..

x tau la time kau belajar sejarah dulu kau tido ke tak..( maybe kau kena belajar balik ngan cikgu sejarah aku-cikgu Rosli- biar kena kaw2 ngan dia baru nak paham kot)

Lahir kat Malaysia, dari kecik sampai dah berjanggut pun x penah tinggalkan negara.. alih2 x abih2 kondem negara sendiri..

yang dah p luar negara pun ada juga la sekerat dua macam tu..buang duit rakyat je hantar kau ngaji jauh2..tp ko lupa daratan mcm tu skali.

the gov have their flaws..that is true..so, instead of complaining and spreading false rumors, why dont you do something about it?

be in the politic! Change the way things are now!

tapi kau mesti jawab"x minat politik" atau politik tu Kotor.. You dont want to do anything and you cant do anything better than the person you were condemning, yet still wanna act as you are sooooooooooooo big?

Haish!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the answer i'm looking for all my life is this...

just read this from Iluvislam... and these is the complete answer to my worries for earlier post.....

i kinda know all these... i guess i forgot that when i was the one who were dealing with crisis...

Disclaimer: the above content are not mine... they are from that site...

just wanna share it here so that i will never forget them..

Kita selalu bertanya dan al-Quran telah menjawabnya.

Kita bertanya: Kenapa aku diuji?

Quran menjawab, "Apakah manusia itu mengira bahawa mereka dibiarkan saja mengatakan."Kami telah beriman, sedangkan mereka tidak diuji? Dan sesungguhnya Kami telah menguji orang-orang sebelum mereka, maka sesungguhnya Allah mengetahui orang-orang yang benar, dan sesungguhnya Dia mengetahui orang-orang yang berdusta." (Surah al-Ankabut: 2-3)


Kita bertanya: Kenapa aku tidak dapat apa yang aku idam-idamkan?

Quran menjawab, "Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi pula kamu menyukai sesuatu padahal ia amat buruk bagimu. Allah mengetahui sedang kamu tidak mengetahui." (Surah al-Baqarah: 216)


Kita bertanya: Kenapa ujian seberat ini?

Quran menjawab, "Allah tidak membebani seseorang itu melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya." (Surah al-Baqarah: 286)


Kita bertanya: Kenapa kita rasa kecewa?

Quran menjawab, "Janganlah kamu bersikap lemah, dan janganlah pula kamu bersedih hati, padahal kamulah orang-orang yang tinggi darjatnya, jika kamu orang-orang yang beriman."(Surah Ali Imran: 139)


Kita bertanya: Bagaimana harus aku menghadapinya?

Quran menjawab, "Dan mintalah pertolongan (kepada Allah) dengan jalan sabar dan mengerjakan sembahyang, dan sesungguhnya sembahyang itu amat berat kecuali bagi orang-orang yang khusyuk." (Surah al-Baqarah: 45)


Kita bertanya: Kepada siapakah harus aku berharap?

Quran menjawab, "Cukuplah Allah bagiku, tidak ada Tuhan selain daripadaNya. Hanya kepadaNya aku bertawakal." (Surah at-Taubah: 129)


Kita bertanya: Apa yang aku dapat daripada semua ujian ini?

Quran menjawab, "Sesungguhnya Allah telah membeli daripada orang-orang mukmin, diri dan harta mereka dengan memberikan syurga untuk mereka." (Surah at-Taubah: 111)


Kita berkata: Aku sedih!

Quran menjawab, "Dan demikianlah keadaan hari-hari (kejayaan dan kesedihan) Kami pergilirkan di antara manusia (supaya menjadi pengajaran)." (Surah Ali Imran: 140)


Kita berkata: Aku tak tahan!

Quran menjawab, "...dan janganlah kamu berputus asa dengan rahmat Allah. Sesungguhnya tiada berputus asa daripada rahmat Allah melainkan kaum yang kafir."(Surah Yusuf: 87)


Kita berkata: Sampai bilakah aku akan merana begini?

Quran menjawab, "Kerana sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan. Sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan." (Surah al-Insyirah: 5-6)

Orang yang paling kuat sebenarnya adalah orang yang sabar. Tanpa kesabaran yang ditunjangi akal waras dan iman kental, kita pasti tidak dapat bangkit apabila menerima pukulan takdir. Walhal sesuatu bala itu juga nikmat buat kita, hambaNya. Tegal di sebalik musibah yang menimpa, jarang sekali kita mengintai hikmahnya.

Ayat Seribu Dinar

"Barang siapa yang bertakwa kepada Allah, nescaya Dia akan mengadakan baginya jalan keluar. Dan memberinya rezeki dari arah yang tidak disangka-sangkanya. Dan barang siapa yang bertawakal kepada Allah, nescaya Allah akan mencukupkan keperluannya. Sesungguhnya Allah melaksanakan urusan yang dikehendakiNya. Sesungguhnya Allah telah mengadakan ketentuan bagi tiap-tiap sesuatu." (Surah at-Talaq: 2-3)

Sumber: Dipetik daripada Curahan Cinta Niagara karya Maya Iris

hijau mata hitamku....

i'll be facing my licensing exam in a week time....

urgh..............

and i don't really feel i am ready to face this...

just got the result of the final xm last week... well, i have to say that.. Iza, u suck la... camna la bleh jatuh pointer nih?... hurm...

but no regret!! i know i have give my best ... errr ( except the paper part kot... sapa suroh malas lagi..)

overall.. my CGPA bleh tahan la.. but it is below what i have expect... sedey2..

some other have raise in their CGPA.... and some even got beyond what other achieve..

then.... datangla si setan nak menghasut bagi jeles kat org len...

i hate myself when i began to compare myself to other... because I know i could never win this battle if i keep looking at myself in other people's reflection...

i know... things happen 4 a reason... but sometimes cant help but to ask things like.. ,"why didn't I got what she/he got when i have strive even harder than em?"

or

" this is not fair!!!!!! Why did she get everything that i dream of achieving while i don't? "

or

" why wasn't i gifted with genius/photographic mind like her? why do i have to "suffer" to get to the level she so easily obtain"

that kind of negative feeling ..

i hate comparison.. really hate it!!!

even when i was on the better site, i cant shake off feeling not so good when i know people were comparing me with so and so..

but at the same time, cant run from it.. kan?

from...

comparing class achievement during xm and test

to ..

comparing who got the highest and lowest(dapat teruk.. nak compare sapa lagi teruk..

dapat elok pun nak banding sapa plg elok... )

to..

who got job first

to ..

who got the best working place

to..

who got the largest salary..

ect2

x habis2 kan...

camtu.. bilala baru nak menang... asyik terasa inadequate compared to someone else.. and that lead to feeling demotivated.. sungguh demotivated..

this is pathetic!!!

padahalnya... kalo suma org dapat benda yang sama ja.. then.. everybody's fate is standardized ke? I have different goal than that person i envy.. but learning that she is getting to her goal even faster than me make me feel so left out..

feel like i haven't been moving from the same place while she is sooo going places with her shinning wings...

i feel like a loser....

This SUCK!!!!

KARMA

ok... tetiba teringat kat cikgu Rosli bila sebut karma ni... sbb penah jumpa dalam buku sejarah yang dah tinggal sejarah sejak abis SPM..

tapi aku x terniat nak cakap sal cikgu Rosli yang dikhabarkan nak dapat menantu baru nanti.. Tahniah la cikgu.. wlaupun saya x dundng pun... ( dgn nada sedih) saya wish anak ckgu jodohnya panjang le hendaknya..

ok.. tinggalkan crita cikgu rosli tu..

skrg.. back to the main business..ecece..

sblm aku suka-suki je bg aku pya definisi karma ni.. aku google dulu la word ni... sblm memberi ajaran sesat lak kan...

kata encik wikipedia

"Karma' is an Indian religious concept in contradistinction to 'faith' espoused by Abrahamic religions (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam), which view all human dramas as the will of God as opposed to present - and past - life actions"

aku x yah translate la kan... sbb aku slalu tulis english korang bleh pun baca kan.. lagipun.. aku pun x paham sgt pekebendanya la dorang tulis tu.. hehe.* sambil buka kamus*

ok... wlau apapun yang encik wiki kate... aku nak mendifinisikan Karma ni macam What goes around come around la kan. kalo anda buat jahat kat orang.. korang inagt x tertangkap tu dah cukup hebat la.. tapi jangan ingat korang akan terlepas selamanya.. ada balasannya.. Bak kate pepatah," sepandai2 tupai melompat, akhirnya x berjaya masuk SUKMA jugak".. huh..macam pelik jeh.. apa korang rasa? aku rasa fresh oren (PERHATIAN: jgn guna peribahasa ni dalam karangan SPM korang..pihak kami x bertanggungjawab kalo anda kena mengulang subjek BM dalam SpM anda)

mak aku pulak kate," skrg kalo bt jahat, x yah tunggu nak kena time dah mati, kat dunia pun dah dapat dah" . x caye....? lantak r.. tapi aku percaya benda ni..

aku penah post something sal "kawan " yang bt benda salah, tapi nak jugak org puas ati ngan dia kan.. Ni kira macam lebey kurang la skrip asalnya.. just orang len la.. tapi kes lebih krg sama la. sesapa x puas ati aku ngunkit balik benda ni... bagitau siap2 .. sbb aku nak crita jugak.. Tis is my Blog kan.. and dat story involve me also.

so... dat someone membuat something yang mengsaikokan aku slama 3 minggu aku practikal kat satu wad ni.. Terasa teraniaya? mmg sgt2 trasa dianiaya, marah dan mcm nak nyumpah2 dia kalo aku jumpa dia..Because my team's reputation was torn bcos of her..( sila rujuk entry sblm ni yg menquote word"knapa grup kamu malas ?" ) Old story u may say... but please realize, bad rumors travel fast and they remains longer than any good news. Org bleh bagi seribu keburukan kita dan kosong kebaikan kita..bcause some pple like to think that they are better than other people... Thus there is a need to bring other down.

that person got off with her deed...and i got nothing to say about that.. Her luck kan.. but i think Tuhan tu sgt adil.. macam Karma.. wat u did, u get back. bukan nak bgembira atas kesedihan dia, aku pun bersimpati atas apa jd kat dia.. tapi deepdown.. aku terpikir satu word ja.. KARMA. she got her punishment 4 wat she did earlier n it was exactly wat she did to us. hurm... fullstop.

so, the point here is that, beringat la sblm nak aniaya orang.. Tuhan tu Maha Melihat dan Maha Mengetahui. Aku percaya, if u did good to other, other will also do good to you.. Mother theresa gives her life to people, she may not be rich with money from other, but she's rich with love. sampai skrg pun orang kenang dia.. and pray 4 her. u hurt other, u think other will love you kah? ( ditujukan kpd pn diktator.. ) . U say bad word to other, u think other will say good word about you? stop being delusional!!( macam sambungan emo last wek ja nih). OK... say watever, at least i know i'm not hypocrite and act as if I dont mind ( tune:beautiful monster-neyo).

oooh.. and when u talk abt other on ur blog... other people will also talk about u back...errrrr... WHOOPSIEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

words...

i have a lot in mind to nag about... but when i really have the time to write something, the mood just went passing by and i end up updating nothing until yesterday..

and today...

really should be reading books for the nursing board exam... but seriously.. got no mood to even open up the books..

especially today

ok... what was i thinking just now.. oh! right.. WORDS

I think... the most powerful thing in the world that everybody have is words...

it can either lift you up or bring you down at a short time..

dont you agree?

when someone says words like, " well done" or " good job!!", it really does boost up my spirit a lot.. eventhough the things that i did was just something small. It's like , "yoshi..i'm gonna do better next time so that i can feel this happy" sort of feeling. it motivate you to do better and make one feel like what they are doing, regardless of how big or small it is worth it and appreciated.

but words like, " kamu x layak jadi so and so" atau, " you have no integrity" ( just bcause of some very trivial thing for God sake..) , atau" kalau kamu rasa kamu x suka ngan apa yg saya bt, kamu bleh kluar dr sini" atau, " kenapa grup kamu ni macam malas eh" ( pdhal kamu x rehat lgsung pun dr wad time practical..siap blik lmbat lg) atau.." budak tu mmg slalu mcm tu.. lambat pickup"( when you know you have try ur best to do things up to their standard.. and yang lawaknya, org yang dok ngata tu bt keja x betul pun..tapi perasan dia tu sgt hebat sbb dia dah keja) really make me feel so low..frustrated and sad.

it's not like i don't accept criticism .. but dont do it to the point the person u are criticizing are disgraced. if you want to teach, cant u just words that don't downgrade other. sbg senior, nak ajar junior.. mestikah nak kena ckp kasar utk pastikan msg kamu tu smpai kat jr kamu..? atau staff nurse nak ajar student nurse, mestikah malukan sorang student yang bt salah dpn orng lain supaya ajaran tu sampai..?" adakah penggunaan word BODOH, X LAYAK JD NURSE, LEMBAP tu memastikan student tu paham apa yang korang ajar? hebat sangatkah kamu nak melabel org lain yang terang berusaha utk bt yang terbaik dia bleh buat sbg org yang "BODOH, MALAS, lembap ect" terutamanya bila kamu sendiri xla sesempurna mana. sempurna sgtkah kamu untuk mengadili orang lain... I mean, who are you to judge other... you are not even perfect like the people you are judging, what make you so special that you can just simply go and label other just like that !!!!!

aku mmg tgh emo ngan sorang makhluk Tuhan paling perasan, narcissistic dan paling annoying pernah aku jumpa.. Belajar je tinggi2, tapi bebalnya aku x tau nak cakap apa dah. my mum and dad are both teachers,and as far as i know and experience with my own beloved teachers in Asma, teacher are strict, but they are soft at the same time and also always motivating their student to reach their goal.. Tapi makhluk Tuhan yang dikatakan ni, sebaliknya pula... when she should be helping student to deal with their prob, she created the problem.. When she should be encouraging students to study and strive to get the best of their job, she comes and destroy everyone's happiness and motivation with her stinking mouth and instead of encouraging us to love the profession, she's making us feel like escaping it even before we even enter it.. WTF... I dont really know what is her function in this place...!!!!! but everywhere she go, i smell TROUBLE, added with I-think-i'm- the-greatest-person-on-earth-and-everyone-must-bow-to-me attitude..

( what.... she doesn't smile at me when she sees me 10 meter away... off with her head!!)

And she must have think that she is always right!!! she don't even know you, and yet, just because you once did something that she doesn't like( like not accepting her not-so-useful-idea for an activity, or forgot to smile at her when u meet her, or use the wrong word to address her when u meet her by accident or not ) .. you will forever get the name as " hard-to-deal" or "troubled" student. And whenever she sees you.. watchout!! you should know that she'll always keep an eye on you..in case you did something wrong again. And yes, u are forever her target for scolding eventhough u really didn't do anything wrong!

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to keep on looking for others fault

Live must have been really boring for her ...

i weep for her loneliness and inability to live with peace with everyone

she must have an allergy for affection... that why she seek respect so much ( duh.. respect should be earn.. not forced upon)

i hope you live happily being hated by the whole fac... ( i really cant believe that there is anyone who like her... honestly... kalo ada tu... kira ajaib la)

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do it anyway...

“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.

Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.

Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.

Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.

Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.

Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, will often be forgotten.

Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.

Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” – from Mother Teresa’s wall

chingu

Dear BLOGGIE…

I MISS YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

More than I’m miss watching YB..( seriously!)I never know that I’ll miss you this much.. haha

So much have happen the last 3 weeks, so much to tell.. but I barely have time or mood to update anything .

My mum was hospitalized for her hypertension, Diabetes mellitus and Bell palsy. So I was home for the whole 2 week .. so..like usual la..I’m in Hiatus. She recovered quite well, although her facial paralysis wasn’t completely cured ( I think after a few therapies. She’ll be back to her usual self).For those who have been worrying about her and cheering me up.. Million thanks u guys !! m(_ _)m

( see... she is as healthy as ever )

There was this saying that you’ll know you true friend when you are in trouble/stress. I guess, I was blessed to have my friends support during my time of distress ne. Dealing with a sick relative was quite a challenge for some, including me. Being in a different picture, now as a patient’s family kinda teaches me a lot. Regardless of who she is, I think one really needs a support of someone in that kind of situation. You can’t help feeling hopeless when you know there isn’t anything much that you can do to make things better. You are anxious, distress and weary.. but there was no one there to calm you down except for yourself.

That was the time when a friend is most needed. It doesn’t need expensive gift or anything fancy ne. A simple word such as “ How are you feeling” or “ take care” already means a lot, and a simple act like to visit them in the ward can lighten up the patient and their family more than you think they would. My mum smile a lot and seem really happy that all of her colleagues and some students from school visit her at home after she was discharged. One of the teacher even volunteer to help her with the facial therapy everyday for 2 weeks. She came to our house every night to massage mum, buy her some complimentary medication, talk to her about her worries, and help her to go through her situation more than I can. And she did all of that for FREE! With all of them coming to visit her and all the care and love they show, that make me think.. “ human are so nice, ne” I couldn’t thank her enough! and I wish I can be that good/ helpful to my friends and make a positive different in their life like this teacher does. I mean, that was what friends are for right? They help each other, and they sincerely care for each other.

I believe everyone needs a friend, ne. But not everyone knows how to appreciate a good friend and be a good friend to other. If you want other to be good to you, you must first be good friend to other.. But some people just don’t get that. They want to have a good friend, but they themselves fail to be one for their friends. I used to hear someone claim that they are good friend to someone, but at the same time, they were bad mouthing each other behind each other’s back! It always make me think, “ how did they define friend as?” Is friend just someone you like to hang around with, or someone you can use to get what you want, someone whom you like because she has the look and styles that fits you, someone who you love to gossip with, someone whom will make you proud because of her fame, wealth or background? You hang out with her but you don’t really care about her .When she loses all that, do you simply just push her away? A friend is to be appreciated not to be used and throw away when you are done with them. How can you call yourself a friend, when you go behind her back saying bad thing about her, left her when she need you, and let her to continue doing mistake she is doing before as if it doesn’t matter.

A friend of mine, Q gets into some problem with another friend ,X because her “so-called best friend “ tell her that Q was not happy that she was doing something unprofessional during training. X was furious because of that( which I think wasn’t something she should be mad of..because it was truly her mistake. You can’t expect other to be happy for you when u did the wrong thing you know) When someone was mad at you for your wrong doing, it shows that they care. They do not want you to continue doing the same mistake. The people whom you regards as friend but just let you to repeat you mistakes and just put a blind eyes when you did something wrong was nowhere a friend. They are willing to see you fall instead of helping you up. If she is really a good friend as she claim she is, she wouldn’t tell X what Q said or what other were saying bad about X( because she wants to protect X from being sad ) she herself will advise X to change for good. But people always take it the other way around, they think that the one whom were changing them for good, constantly correcting and be angry when they make mistake were their enemy and the one who just let them do whatever they want are their friends.

In my opinion, being clear about things and being harsh at times when it's needed are counted as kindness. For example, if your friend does something wrong, I think defending her in a laid-back manner and letting things slide without paying too much attention is wrong. If you aren't honest with your thoughts then, even if it's acceptable in that situation, it will eventually hurt the other person. You don't necessarily have to pinpoint everything, but being bold enough to say things that are a little critical is true kindness. ( Yamapi)-credits: Seventeen_0409

Real friend will not let their friend to do the wrong thing because they would be worry if you get hurt, because she will also be hurt. Even if you think that she is nagging at you, or making you feel irritated. She did it for your own good. If someone was talking bad about you, they will fell as if they were the one being talked about. Not the one who were talking bad about you! When you cry, they will cry with you, when you were praised, they smiles with proud for you ( and not conspiring to bring you down and pull all attention to herself)they protect you. They accept you the way you are and only change you when you were wrong, they build you to be a better you and be with you through thick and thin. If the one you called friend are letting you keep on drowning in your mistakes, consider back why are being friend with her-because for me, it is not worth it-she doesn’t really give a damn about you.

For my dear mabudachi, thank you for being there when I need you guys. I know there’s a lot I have to improve, please continue to help me along the way. For always being my “ taeyang” , “shine a light “ along my way..Thank You. And along our way, If I fail to be a good friend to all of you.. “I’m so sorry.. bUt I love you.. “and that is not a Lie( gojitmal)

uHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

looking forward to 9th April again after 2 years..( humming happily)
* smiling to self*
thanks for being the reason for me to smile despite all this cloudy cloud hanging around my heard right now..
its easier to breakdown now instead of smiling.. so , really.. arigato na!
( there I goes again talking something uncomprehensable again.haha)

( yes? NO?..... I know I'm in the mist of mental breakdown now.. OH MY RESEARCH REPORT!!!)

oh shit...!!!!!!


haven finish that report yet ..



so until then....

loveless..

my frend wrote something like this on her status in FB

"Ward-a place of thousands life and their own little stories, only special people that He chosed to win the emotional battle! n i loose~"

i would be lying if i said that i never felt sad or angry or having other negative feeling when working in the ward. No matter how strong I tried to act in front of my patients, there are times when i felt like not wanting to be there- i wanna run away from facing the emotional battle in the ward.

Someone once told me not to get too emotionally attached with the patients that we take care of. But how could you not having the feeling of care and concern about these patient when you are working with them like... everyday until he/she was discharged or.. gone. For me, that is absolutely impossible, Zettai muri!!!. and because of that, from a professional part, i think i fail miserably,because i always sees my patients and their relatives as a family of mine. Sometimes i have to remind myself not to be like that, but I cant help it. I love the people I'm working for (the patients that is.. doctors were never our superior!!)

emotional breakdown.. I never though that i'll experience this so soon, ne. i thought that if i give my all to the job that i am doing, i'll do just fine.. SUPER FINE.. It did sometimes, but when things take a turn for worst at the patients.. I think it kill me as much as it kill the patient's real relatives.

There was this patient who have been admitted to the ward several time for her cancer treatment and pleural abscess. A petite chinese grandma whom were always smilling and i think she is soo cute. I like this patient soooooo much, like my own grandma, her relatives are also very friendly and nice.. they feel almost like a real family of mine in the ward. I have my motivation to work-remembering that i'll meet her again in the ward- Warm.. it's that kind of feeling. You see, there are types of people that makes you feel like wanting to be close to them once you know them and some other makes u feel like keeping a distance. in her case it's the first.

Well, she died last week- on my last day in the surgical ward- and also the last day of the chinese new year. It was a heartbreaking moment for me, the second LO after another Cancer patient 2 weeks before. She was on the DNR ( Do not resuscitate) list, so all that we do is let her die in piece. i was on the verge to cry, but if you yourself are crying- how can you calm the other relatives?. So, everything was kept lock inside...and it hurt- soo deeply its crushing my heart until now. Her smile, her small voice, the look on her confused face when she does understand the words i'm saying( she doesn't know Malay or english much).. I miss her so much.

my heart was telling me not to pay too much attention to my patients again next time.. LOVELESS... is this the only way out for me not to be in this kind of pain again and again?